My first taste of motherhood started when I became a stepmom. When I got together with my now husband he came as a packaged deal. Three children and two Bio Moms.

I thought "let's try this and see if it works out."

I was head over heels and co-dependent, it became this very toxic relationship real quick and I struggled to be ok not just with myself but within my relationships, as a partner, stepmom, and as well as daughter, and sister.

You see part of my trauma was growing up with a not-so-present father. There would years in between seeing my dad and then months, there was no consistency.

And when I met my now husband I was unclear in my role as a stepmom let alone how to be ok with the bio moms constantly texting and calling him.

Three years into my relationship I found out I was pregnant and this was a journey in and of itself.

I was mentally struggling to be ok bringing a baby into this dynamic. I had a lot of fears and they quickly turned into resentments.

My fears were stepping into the unknown around how my pregnancy was going to be as well as the birth of my baby, I also feared bringing my baby not this divided family. I didn't want my child to grow up as I did, with an absent father.

I knew I had to do everything in my power to be ok and make things work.

Now one year later and here I am guiding other stepmoms and first-time moms into motherhood, and stepmotherhood with a common denominator to get your mind right and built mentally healthy harmonious families.